As I peruse profiles of cocks and tatas, it becomes a reoccurring theme in most that many people are looking for exclusivity. This is not to be confused with long-term relationships or marriage proposals but rather one-on-one security built on trust and comfort with a like-minded individual.
What is not to like!? I mean, I for one have had the pleasure of seeking and finding friends with benefits that have been on-going for months - generally they have a lifespan - only to find a new one to take his (or her) place. Although I do try and limit my friends to one maybe two at a time so that I can invest in that person and make myself available for their needs, and they for mine.
Often I find the sex is more open, liberating and intense. There is no need to mask nerves with booze or endless chatter but rather move into the motions and movements of skilled lovers, appreciating the terrain of your lovers skin -- their curves, valleys, warm and damp areas, hardness, ridges, veins...sigh.
I find my experiences with my 'friend with benefits' can be intense, fast, hard, rough or fun, goofy, silly, playful and lazy or soft, sweet, tender love-making...it runs the gamut.
The hard part is keeping those feelings along the line, walking the tight rope of trust and partnership...not wanting to develop feelings of possession and jealousy...or not to encourage feelings similar in my lover towards me.
And what to do when you want a little one-off fun with a group or couple?
Being married has helped me maintain this line although it has not made me impervious of caring a little too much for my lovers or investing in their emotions, feeling, dreams, and desires.
See...I am a pleaser...I want people happy...especially those I care about...and quite frankly it SUCKS.
BUT...I am not willing to change. It makes me a better lover and essentially adding the FRIEND to friends with benefits.Okay....your turn! Thoughts???
Emotional investment in an exclusive lover OR straight-faced stranger fucking?
And because I feel it necessary...BOOBIES!
